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A pet peeve of mine...
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A pet peeve of mine... Ok, if for some reason that I talk to you via IM here, and we continue to talk, and then all of a sudden, you stop talking and ghost me, and then refuse to talk to me afterwards...ok I can get the hint. You don't want to talk to me. But to not have the guts and say "Hey, I don't think we're going to get along here" or "Hey, I'm sorry, but I'm just not feeling a connection" or "You know...I'm sorry, but I read your profile and I don't think we're right for each other," to me, that just shows me a lack of character on the woman's part. I mean, I get that the men here can be ridiculous. And yes, a woman does not owe me an explanation. But to just up and disappear and stop speaking without any reason just shows a lack of character and a lack of a spine. Have we become so afraid of any negative response that a person goes "Ewww, I don't want to tell him I'm not interested. SO....I'm just not going to reply back to him/her at all! That way I won't have to deal with it!" Have we become so scared of confrontation that we want to do everything to avoid it? I mean, have the guts to tell someone how you really feel, and more people would probably respect you for saying "I'm sorry, but I just don't feel we're compatible." And even still, I think people would appreciate it here instead of ghosting them or just up and disappearing completely, they would probably treat people better if more people were just upfront and honest instead of just pulling a dick move and disappearing. What do you think? Do you do this to people where you just up and disappear on people? Or do you prefer to be upfront and honest with people and just tell them what you think? What are your thoughts on this? Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent  |
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As Avalokiteshva mentioned, sometimes people that appear to be on the IM system, aren't. The site is rather notorious for showing people on, when in fact they have logged off or were never actually logged onto the IM system in the first place. I've had personal experience with this with a friend of mine. The site showed him on IM and he hadn't been on at all that day. He had no reason to lie to me since he's someone I've known for a while in real life. lol I also can't count the number of times messages have not gone thru. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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LaLa has it all and I would add: some people are simply rude. It's part of their personal mien and not much anyone can do about it except pass on by (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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Some men don't like being told not interested so call the women names. Fat ugly etc. Not saying you do but women will not know that so they just stop contact. Then is the ones only pretending to want to meet. I had a man write me knowing he is to young. Being in a phone it's hard to delete mail without opening it because the screen is small so hard to get the check in the box to delete . Called me a old cunt. Ummm wasn't old until he saw I like men. Who do I think I am he asked.I am a woman who wants a man, not males thinking they are one. He hopes i get cancer and die. If people could take a polite no more women would answer. I used to. Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth. If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.
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I concur with others who have mentioned that there are issues with the IM client, here. Lala's experiences mirror my own, and it has gotten to be raging-bad since 2010, but has been something of an issue since 2002. What I call "ghosting" is when Passion shows you still logged-in after you've actually logged off--sometimes for several hours. Personally, I don't cut-off contact with somebody unless he or she has displayed some pretty unbalanced--near psychotic--behaviour. It's not often, but it has happened; and, when I deem somebody to genuinely be dangerous to me, personally, I have no tears to shed over taking care of my own peace of mind first. Some people *do* regard interactions on Passion to be something outside of IRL, and cold shoulder a person without regard to common courtesy; but, that really saves you the time and effort involved in setting up a meet, and having them flake on you. I just walk the other way, and concentrate on finding the people who 'click' with my life situation, personality, likes, dislikes, and time availability. Just my 2¢ अवलोकितेश्वर
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Let me also add this as a addition to my post...I KNOW she read the IM messages because you can see below that it says DELIVERED and then when a person actually reads it, it says READ. And when she saw them, it did show up as READ. Which means she purposely READ them and then when I asked her if she wanted to talk, and it said READ, she failed to reply back at all for 15 minutes. Now...unless the IM system here is so shitty, that she sent me messages and I didn't get them while I was looking at the IM dialog box waiting for her to respond, then I could excuse it. But my guess is, she refused to reply back. Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent
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Do you ghost people? Or do you tell people what you think no matter if it might be uncomfortable to you? Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent
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