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I recently had a couple of experiences where I was fairly certain a married friend of mine was hinting that I should make a move on her and that she'd be receptive. I didn't do anything, though (although REALLY wanted to) because I had gotten mixed signals from her in the past, where she seemed to react negatively when she may have felt I had crossed a line. Like one time I put my hand on her back while we were at the beach and she seemed to pull back. Also I know her husband pretty well, and I felt guilty about doing anything. I feel like maybe she just likes to flirt a bit with me but doesn't want to go further. Hard to tell...
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I don't think this is because of men being shy. I think it's an uncomfortable position to be put in. Should I or Shouldn't I? I am sure they wanted to, but didn't want to cross the line.
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1/24/2017 7:57 am |
My answer is that it would depend on the woman, the friend, the timing and her intent. For example, if this were the first time that I had seen her dressed and acting provocatively and being flirty, she is going to have more of my attention than if I am of the impression that that is just how she is and I am not and never will be the target, and she were to be interested then she is going to need to get the 2X4 for me to notice. Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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They weren't being shy--they were being respectful. A woman with a wedding ring is "off limits" to most men as a matter of principle, regardless of what she's wearing or how she behaves. Why do some guys crawl over corpses even if she's married? Because they're selfish and impulsive. Again, it has nothing to do with what the woman is wearing or how she behaves. It's simply a reflections of the guy's character.
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sometimes you want try the grass on the other side of the fence
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Got to give em a chance.... They might teach u something new -)
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Yes I would and my girlfriend and I had sex with a friend's wife last week. However, we did it with his blessing. I would never behind someone's back.
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Reading this and the previous post, I thought of several reasons why men sometimes seem shy about making a move. Obviously some men are shy, others lack self confidence ( that isn't always the same thing ) and some may just prefer women who play hard to get. I think there are two other reasons which women tend not to be aware of. The first is that many men as young boys, get cruelly brushed off by young women who are not old enough to know better. At that age it is easy for girls to hide their own fear of lack of experience behind a clever put down, and boys carry that memory with them into manhood, and don't want it to be repeated. The other reason is that men are constantly being told that " all men are bastards, they only want one thing" and that what women really want is a relationship. Neither of these things is always true, but they are both true often enough that a man can often feel that if he makes the first move, he then may be made to feel that he has to follow through, and prove that he wasn't just after sex - he wanted a relationship. Well early on, he doesn't know that yet, so he doesn't want to give a false impression, or get trapped into a place he doesn't necessarily want to be. But if he waits for a woman to make all the moves, to literally beg him to fuck, no strings attached, then he feels safe - she can't then claim he led her on, he can't be told he's a playing bastard if it all goes wrong. There is are two kinds of men who are totally unaffected by these factors. Men who simply don't care at all if they hurt a woman, and men who actually get off on the idea of being somehow predatory. Most women would like to avoid both these types of men at all costs, and yet many act in ways which ,mean these are the men most likely to hit on them. It seems to me that by being up front and open, you may have to put up with good guys being a bit shy to start with, but good guys usually have a dark side too, and you are very likely to come across some real good hot ones in the end! Good luck, and I look forward to hearing more stories of how you get on! Dreamer.
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Well where i am from you don't mess with friends girls(don't talk,don't flirt don't even laugh, just turn around and run away ),family or anything close to him from the other gender Even most ex girls are off limits for a longer period of time(till he says he doesn't care anymore) its just a rule and i firmly believe in this rule
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I bring many of my married friends round for my husband to fuck, I love to see it, they love it and their partners do not know
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I too am shy up to some extent to make a starting move.. but once into it.. I am a monster....
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1 post 1/26/2017 12:42 am |
I have done it many times over my life and never felt bad. If the woman wants it well that's what she wants. Life is lived to be enjoyed The only deterrent has been not so much shyness but the situation that has required a little discretion for their marriage and the location as when there is partying things can get a little out of hand when they shouldn't. It is about the personal safety of the woman as some of the husbands get aggressive with someone else on their turf and the lady ends up being a punching bag and that's not a good outcome.
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Reading this and the previous post, I thought of several reasons why men sometimes seem shy about making a move. Obviously some men are shy, others lack self confidence ( that isn't always the same thing ) and some may just prefer women who play hard to get. I think there are two other reasons which women tend not to be aware of. The first is that many men as young boys, get cruelly brushed off by young women who are not old enough to know better. At that age it is easy for girls to hide their own fear of lack of experience behind a clever put down, and boys carry that memory with them into manhood, and don't want it to be repeated. The other reason is that men are constantly being told that " all men are bastards, they only want one thing" and that what women really want is a relationship. Neither of these things is always true, but they are both true often enough that a man can often feel that if he makes the first move, he then may be made to feel that he has to follow through, and prove that he wasn't just after sex - he wanted a relationship. Well early on, he doesn't know that yet, so he doesn't want to give a false impression, or get trapped into a place he doesn't necessarily want to be. But if he waits for a woman to make all the moves, to literally beg him to fuck, no strings attached, then he feels safe - she can't then claim he led her on, he can't be told he's a playing bastard if it all goes wrong. There is are two kinds of men who are totally unaffected by these factors. Men who simply don't care at all if they hurt a woman, and men who actually get off on the idea of being somehow predatory. Most women would like to avoid both these types of men at all costs, and yet many act in ways which ,mean these are the men most likely to hit on them. It seems to me that by being up front and open, you may have to put up with good guys being a bit shy to start with, but good guys usually have a dark side too, and you are very likely to come across some real good hot ones in the end! Good luck, and I look forward to hearing more stories of how you get on! Dreamer. Sharinrosey
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Yes i would but would have to be mutual agreement
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Would be interested it the situation was right
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There two good comments above and maybe this will include additional insight. Your status comment "Each day I want to have sex with someone new!" is actually a turn-off to most men with morals, character and integrity (the decent man) and even a few men without those characteristics. To the decent man, the comment above, references about how you were dressed, acting and presenting yourself as a woman of lesser character and moral is not really desired by most men. Its one thing to act that way in the bedroom and another when all men know your pussy is up for grabs. The only thing a man without those characteristics worries about is the last thing a decent man considers - and yet it is no less an important consideration and foremost in their minds. That is the safety of sex with such a woman that fucks a different man every day. This is not an attractive personality trait to most men. Those men that don't concern themselves with sexual safety or the people they sleep with are the one you should be worried. They may be the ones that "pass it on to two friends" who in turn "passes it on two two friends" - and maybe a husband or wife. Also, just because you and your husband have come to somewhat of a rocky agreement on an open relationship, doesn't mean he's braodcasting that to the world - let alone his immediate pool of friends. Most men don't care to share women with their friends - let alone a wife or friends wife.
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Friends...good friends... just don't do that to each other, period.
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I thought this would be about men who wear socks in bed
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There two good comments above and maybe this will include additional insight. Your status comment "Each day I want to have sex with someone new!" is actually a turn-off to most men with morals, character and integrity (the decent man) and even a few men without those characteristics. To the decent man, the comment above, references about how you were dressed, acting and presenting yourself as a woman of lesser character and moral is not really desired by most men. Its one thing to act that way in the bedroom and another when all men know your pussy is up for grabs. The only thing a man without those characteristics worries about is the last thing a decent man considers - and yet it is no less an important consideration and foremost in their minds. That is the safety of sex with such a woman that fucks a different man every day. This is not an attractive personality trait to most men. Those men that don't concern themselves with sexual safety or the people they sleep with are the one you should be worried. They may be the ones that "pass it on to two friends" who in turn "passes it on two two friends" - and maybe a husband or wife. Also, just because you and your husband have come to somewhat of a rocky agreement on an open relationship, doesn't mean he's braodcasting that to the world - let alone his immediate pool of friends. Most men don't care to share women with their friends - let alone a wife or friends wife. Who I have sex with or with how many shouldn't call for judgement as it is also the males choice to sleep with me as well and he would have his own cross to bear if he is deemed to be inappropriate with his moral standards but I won't judge as I don't feel immoral with what I'm doing. I feel I am probably more morale than a female who lies and cheats her way from one man to another because at least I have the strength of character to stand up now and be clear with what I'm doing and now openly admit I enjoy sex with different men. Sharinrosey
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Thanks for all your comments and there have been some very detailed and thought provoking comments made which I really appreciate Sure I've made a few major blunders mainly from impatient frustration at my husbands inability to decide what he wanted leaving me in limbo for an extended period of time which did create a few problems that still exist now. I do feel I shouldn't be judged for loving sex and if men, couples or women want to have sex with me in an immoral setting then that decision is theirs to make not mine but I certainly won't judge them for it either. I do love the feeling of feeling desired and yes it is almost addictive but why is it a man is hailed a stud for sleeping with multiple partners and a women scorned as a slut? I am being open in what I am all about with nothing to hide now so I feel that is far more morale than doing what I would imagine most women would do and hide the truth about themselves from themselves to deceive or mislead their lovers. Sharinrosey
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1/30/2017 2:35 am |
Ultimately, it depends on the situation. If you consider the individual a friend, environment, etc.
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I also don't like shy men. I like it when they make the first move, but lots of times I will. I like it when they touch my ass, and then tell their friend I have a nice ass and he should feel it to. when he rubs your leg. I like it when they come behind me, grab my waist, and say something hot. The best is when he tells you to get undressed, and a few of his friends are there. I am naked real fast CHRIS
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I agree it is not about being shy. Women like to play games and see how far they can push someones buttons to get a rise out of them. However, It doesnt sound like that was your situation. You just had a couple of nancy boys whom couldnt commit.
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Hi Rose... Maybe you read too much into the stereotypical party line of women, women's magazines and gossip. First and foremost, you fail to recognize that women all over the world (not in every country but generally) have and are afforded many more "options" as well as the same privileges as men. But "super stud" and "super slut" are labels put in place by women. Not men! You'll never (and neither have hear a man reference another man with the term super stud. If you do, its generally a term used by those without a vocabulary (or trying to be funny) - referring to a man that has zero inhibitions who can easily approach women. Men don't share like women so few really know who and how many others they sleep with. On the other hand, I've rightfully used the term "slut" to refer to a few of my male friends - directly to their faces. Those who actually do sleep around, catch an std and then pass it on to their wives. They are looked at no better than a woman with the same penchant. The word slut used by men does not contain the same inference either. To men, its more of a warning than a condonation. And, while most men will pass on such a woman, they make no further judgements other than conclude the basic observation that this woman has less inhibition than most. Use the word "easy" if you like but not everyone in the world thinks in terms of "the glass is half empty". Even easy women (and younger) have standards they follow. Nothwithstanding, women who use the term "slut" always attach a negative connotation to infer a standard they don't like, or, one they hold close but keep secret. Usually with a subconscious displeasure of similar activities they participate(d) in. These women are much like Russia and China Societies "and American Politicians" - they never say what they really mean - and, what they do say, is usually not what they mean or what they are thinking. You made it through the first 20 years, the next ten years should be dedicated to learning how to communicate in your private and professional (job) lives. hint: use a thesaurus to expand your vocablulary. If nothing else, you need this skill in raising children - when you're ready. I'd advise staying away from these stereotype party line comments (and people who use them). These terms have long term psychological effects you will not recognize until you're closer to 40 or 50 and begin to look back on your life and choices. One truth is, everyone looks back - what you'll see, is entirely up to you.
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At a bar, I once had a new guy friend who couldn't wait for me to talk with his wife. He hinted that she wanted sex with me. He brought his wife to me and we soon went to my house. When he left for the bathroom she immediately got in front of me and started sucking my cock. He came back in and smiled taking a seat across from us...I licked his wife's pussy and then fucked her bareback. Soon I blasted load of cum in her pussy and she cleaned my cock off with her tongue and mouth.. Her husband loved it and I saw his wife several times after that, sometimes with him there and sometimes alone with his approval
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