Since people do not like to take the time to read my profile (and I suggest that you read it ALL ), here are some highlights:

1. I need to meet whoever I am talking to in person in a public place the first time.
2. I NEVER guarantee play on a first meet. I like to get to know people, give it a day or two and THEN talk about playing.
3. I can NOT drop everything to come and see you. I also don’t have a lot of free time. Please don’t be someone that continually cancels.
4. I do NOT host in my home. Period.
5. I currently cannot travel outside of Helena to meet people. (I can travel within a 30 mile radius.)
6. I am a bigger woman, and everyone's definition is different.

I have other priorities that take precedence over my time here and in meeting people. I don't have a lot of free time and I apologize that I can't just run off at the drop of a hat.

I am a person who needs discretion and trust. I need stimulation, conversation and a brain. I need honesty, respect and tact. I hope that's not too much to ask for. I am shy, quiet, reserved, and it takes me awhile to warm up. I am not one to be bulldozed. I am interested in men and women. I am into BDSM and can get fairly kinky by most standards (not creepy kinky, just more intense than "vanilla.") Playing around with BDSM isn't a requirement; it's just a nice bonus.

No, I am not interested in helping you cheat. If your spouse doesn't know, then you can move along.

My Ideal Person: I would really enjoy finding a friend, someone I can hang out with, do other things with and talk about other things than sex with. I don't want a one night stand. I don't want one or two times and then someone who drops off the planet. If you're not interested or done, then tell me. I'm an adult. I'm not going to cry into my cheerios.

I am really looking for a friend with benefits, however, I am polyamorous and another relationship wouldn’t be opposed to. I would also love it if that person is interested in BDSM. I am a submissive and I have no desire to Dominate anyone. If you're curious about BDSM, you can ask me about it. I'm not very experienced but I do know some things. I would love someone who is creative, and likes to change it up; someone who is open to trying things, being playful, into foreplay (though, sometimes just frantic groping and hot sex can be fun. *smiles*)

DISCLAIMER: Just because I am submissive and into BDSM, I am NOT going to be your personal fuck doll, slave, or anything mindless. I do NOT follow orders from random people who feel the need to email me to boss me around. I am submissive, not stupid and I do NOT engage in activities without knowing someone well. Submissive also does NOT mean follow directions without question. It does NOT mean I do WHATEVER you say whether I want to or not.

WARNING: Any institutions using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form, both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered in serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications! (I don’t know as to how well that works, but why not post it.)

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
I would love to get to know someone very well so I could feel
comfortable enough to try my fantasies. I would love to
be teased and played with slowly beginning in the evening. Whispering things in my ears. Going back
to your place, still being teased and played with, slowly,
raising my temperature. Undressing me one piece of clothing
at a time. Tying me up and blindfolding me, touching, kissing,
licking me all over. Telling me what a naughty girl I am,
such a dirty bitch....

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
No particular place, A bed, The beach, The middle of a park, A movie theatre, A remote wilderness spot, Under a waterfall, My desk at work, A swimming pool or hot tub, A store dressing room, An elevator, A hotel room

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Receiving Oral Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Hard Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Slave/Master, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Voyeurism, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Leather, Massage, Dirty talk, being told what my partner likes, Massage

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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