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BDSM and perceptions and misconceptions of it.
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BDSM and perceptions and misconceptions of it. First I have to say thank GOTD for this blog post. Hehe if she hadn’t posted something about it in her blog, I wouldn’t have even though about it in the first place. I went to the posts she mentioned and I read them, I also commented. I was really surprised to see the amount of ignorance about the lifestyle by some of the posters. I may not know a lot about BDSM but I do know its consensual and NOT abuse. Its just a different way to enjoy sex and live out your fantasies. I’ll admit I have experimented with the life style myself...I was with a girl who loved being submissive and wanted to try some of the stuff they do. I was inexperienced at it but she was able to teach me rather well. And she really enjoyed sex and the lifestyle. I found out pretty quickly I wasn’t into it, I just didn’t enjoy spanking a girl...Call it a mental block but I have a thing about never hitting a woman and well the lifestyle conflicts with that idea in a big way hehe. I guess I still have an interest but it isn’t from a Dom point of view, I tried being Dom and it will never work for me. I do understand the BDSM thing better now though from experiencing it. That being said I still think there is something undescribably arousing about a strong Dom woman. Hehe I guess I find it amusing maybe that a woman takes command in the bedroom and could have that kind of power over me if I would allow it. But I suspect it would still come down to the question can’t I just get laid the good ole fashion easy way haha without the ass spanking?  Still I am open minded to the idea and, I wouldn’t rule it out if I happen to meet a Female Dom that was really into it and wanted to do it but I wouldn’t actively search it out. My question is to all of you who regularly read my blog even the lurkers who don’t normally post. Has BDSM ever interested you? And have you ever even had a fantasy of being spanked or trying it? If you did decide to try it would you be a Dom or a sub? If you did try it do you think you would enjoy it? Come on comment don’t just read I would really like to see some opinions and different points of view here. Pweeeze  *side note* Hope this post doesn't offend any of the Master/Slave comunity like I said I have little exp with the lifestyle the post isn't meant to offend. Just to learn.  |
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5/29/2006 1:47 pm |
I don't know a whole lot about BDSM, being the open minded person that I am...I have tried a few thing's, like getting spanked, hand cuffed, but as you said it just wasn't for me. I have seen some photo's that put my jaw to the floor, I didn't think that being tied up like a turkey, or getting hot wax dripped on your private parts didnt seem fun to me at all. I guess some people are into it though...scarey...lol but as they say "to each his/her own"
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Hi Twister can’t I just get laid the good ole fashion easy way haha without the ass spanking? lamo .... how many times have i used those words I have real trouble with the cruel guys who get their jollies bi hurting, or for that matter, totally contolling a woman. They always use smooth words to justify it (like she wants it ... they never think that "why" she wants it shouldnt be played into?) ....but, they cant justify it in my book. Guess i see b & d stuff as NOT sex at all, and maybe even AntiSexual in fact. My take on it! .... There, i spoke, now, do Cum visit my blog IF u r into Squirting OR MFM 3 somes which is mainly what my blog is about. Lil♥Jessica[color ♥SQuirt Say, i use much fancy stuff on my blog, but would you explain how to do the pic expansion bit? ... i have wanted to do that.
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I went out with a guy a few time s that I met on another site. I pulled up his profile and all the me's, my's, mine were Me, Mine and My. I thought he was just full of ego but I asked him about it. He told me he was a dom and that he wrote it that way so that submissive's would know and go out with him. I could never consent to someone controlling me and I don't want to control anyone else. I can be aggressive in the bedroom but I could never tie anyone up, spank them or anything like that. Just not my scene. Mac
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Inquiring minds want to know. SO we are inquiring and exploring the lifestyle. I get alot of requests to Dom my husband and a few of our playmates, even a few who would play only if I did. So I'm working my courage up to go get some serious one on one Dom training by being sub for a day or so, and tutoring in Domming hubby. When it happens, I'll let you know how it goes. Great post wish there were more educated answers. {=} LeeAnn Kisses, LA   
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Oh yea THanks to MOfunNoWWOW for teaching me how to answer peoples posts inside their own post LOL. Yea I know I'm a dope but I couldn't figure it out. Oh side note forgot to answer your question Lilsquirt The picture expand thingie I changed something somewhere so they open now. GOTD posted something about it thats where I learned, shes pretty smart about blog thingies check her blog for a whole lot of fingz.
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Hi Twister ... and hehe to you!!! lol Thanks for you comment on my blog ..... and for an "exceptionally" good question posed. ...... im still pondering what i would have done if..... .. .u really "stopped me cold" and have me thinking .... Bi the way, light ..... let me say "play" control / bondage i sure have no problem with, have indulged during sex, but not as an event itself ... i do think human instincts / expermentation lead us that way ....... maybe i should have used the "D" word, .."demeaning" women ...... that's what i have a lot of trouble with. ... and consentual doesnt cut it in that area cause a lady who wants to be demeaned is "not runnin well", and i know a lot of guys are into demeaning which only "plays into a real problem in her .. like build people up if they have a poor opinion of themself ... not make it worse ..... i have actually know several who pushed ladies over the edge bi helping them put themselves down further ..... that area is what i meant to say .. along with serious physical hurting. "Play" control at times during sex is very natural and erotic. Go for it. Lil♥Jessica♥SQuirt a ♥§ΩuirT♥'ers MFM Tail§
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5/31/2006 11:50 pm |
I've never tried bdsm but it's funny how some girls can immediately spark your interest. I think, given my lack of experience with it I would prefer to start out submissive. There is something that is a turn on about being dominated by a woman. I hope I meet a woman who can dominate me into little pieces, so I can be better equipped to dominate her. I'd have to know a woman, and her friends well before I had that much trust of her though. ThaRealLiv.
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6/1/2006 6:17 pm |
While I don't have much experience with BDSM, I do believe I have more-than-average knowledge of it. It is not cruel. It is not abuse. The BDSM world is a varied one, and just because someone enjoys one aspect doesn't mean they enjoy and partake in all aspects. Whether you believe BDSM to be about sex or not, I do feel that it is a much more open and intimate lifestyle than regular-old sex. BDSM requires much more communication between partners as well as much more trust. I myself don't enjoy pain, but light bondage and light spankings sure do spice things up! ***These are my opinions and observations - I do not proclaim to be an expert.***
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