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10 Things Commitment-Phobic Men Need To Know
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10 Things Commitment-Phobic Men Need To Know There are too many guys out there who just don’t want a commitment, and as a woman who wants a relationship, I can’t help but think that their attitude towards serious love is stupid. As a veteran of dating guys who just hate commitment with a passion, I’ve always wanted to tell some of my exes certain things that they should have been smart enough to know. Here are 10 things commitment-phobic men should know about what they’re doing to themselves. 1. You’re losing out on good women who would value your need for freedom. The number one reason guys don’t want to commit is because they feel like they’re going to be constrained. Truthfully, there are many good women out there who will help you achieve your life goals if they’re in a relationship with you. Relationships aren’t about taking away freedom, they’re about enhancing your life by including people who make it easier to live life day-to-day. 2. There’s a timer on your sex appeal too, bucko. Another common train of thought by men who don’t want relationships is that they don’t want to be with the same woman for decades because of the fact that she’ll age and not look as good in 10 years. Well, here’s the funny thing they forget: men age, too. Getting into a good committed relationship early is just as much an emotional safeguard for men as it is for women. 3. Relationships are worth working for. Commitment-phobes don’t seem to understand that anything worth a damn is worth working for. Relationships involve hard work on both people’s ends if they are going to endure the test of time. All that work actually does pay off, since married men are typically happier and healthier than unmarried ones. 4. You can’t go through life alone. Everyone needs somebody, even if it’s for something as simple as a roof over your head or holding down the fort when you’re on unemployment. Going it alone is a good way to make life’s problems harder to solve. 5. By the time you realize what a fool you’re being, most women won’t want you. It’s true. Not many women want to be with a guy who’s been known to avoid commitments like the plague. The fact is that most guys who avoid commitments decide they want a relationship when sex is no longer easy to get. 6. If you want a family, you’ll need a relationship. I regularly hear guys talking about how they want , but don’t want to get married or have a relationship with a woman. They’ve gotta be kidding, right? Good luck giving birth, fellas! 7. You can’t protect assets you don’t even have! It never ceases to amaze me how many commitment-phobic guys turn down women because they’re worried about getting divorced and losing half of their stuff. The funny thing is that many women are out-earning men, or act as the sole working party of couples. In fact, many of my friends who hear this shit from guys grossly out-earn their love interests. This is a classic case of not seeing the forest for the trees. In an effort to protect a beat up Honda Civic, commitment-phobic men avoid the potential of getting a Mercedes S-Class Maybach. 8. You’re missing out on beautiful memories. If you stay alone for your entire life, you’re missing out on playing catch with your , a beautiful wedding ceremony, Christmas dinners with the family you helped raise, and hyper-romantic date nights. You’re missing out on waking up next to someone who will kiss you first thing in the morning. Is this really what you want to avoid? 9. When the girl you have a crush on ends up ditching your FWB situation for another man who is willing to commit, you have no one to blame but yourself. This is another thing that always amazes me. Commitment-averse men always end up furious when the girl they were casually screwing bolts for a guy who’s willing to commit. Commitment-phobes, don’t be angry at her. She’s just getting what she wants, from a guy who’s willing to give it to her. Not offering that level of commitment was your choice, and that means you have no one to blame but yourself. 10. You need to work out your issues, bro. If you don’t think you have issues, and you’re afraid of committing, you’re wrong. Having a deep fear of commitment is a signal that you have a very unhealthy attitude towards women, love, and interpersonal relationships as a whole. Do yourself a favor, and get some therapy. By: Ossiana Tepfenhart *not me* I sent an Angel to watch over you last night, it returned in a hurry. I asked why, it said "Angels can't watch porn." Thanks for fucking traumatizing my fucking Angel! Don't bother trying to figure me out. Not even the little voices in my head understand me. It's pointless! |
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I agree with all 10 points though #7 has never been an issue for me, I've heard guys that think that way. I still believe if you settle, you'll be sorry in the long run. The only person you have to live with is yourself. Standards are people too.....kinda 
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The reason I'm not interested in a committed relationship is that I'm sick and tired of giving my heart and soul to a woman, only to have it chewed up and spit back out at me. If its true what they say, "Once bitten, twice shy"... Thrice bitten...? You do the math. My ability to trust another at that level is dead.
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There are so many things wrong with this I wouldn't know where or even why to begin.Assumptions and the grass is always greener on the other side is what we(both genders) created with online dating, sadly. I am not alone or lonely I am just single.There is a big difference! Using more than all the road!
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Why would anyone think that "commitment-phobic men" don't already know all this? Maybe they've made a full assessment of the pros and cons of committing and have decided that it's not worth it. The attraction just isn't that great compared to what you have to give up. Maybe the woman who complains that the man wouldn't commit just wasn't the right woman for him... By the way, any woman who wants a relationship but is "a veteran of dating guys who hate commitment with a passion", is clearly doing something very wrong.
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