We are both shy. I guess you could say that we've been in the "swing" life style since 2003. But its mainly been about watching others. We've attended swing parties to explore this. We have only gone to one house party which we have both enjoyed the low pressure atmosphere and friendly people. We've been to this place approximately 10-12 times (since 2003) and have had limited encounters. It was mainly heavy petting, no sex. So....we've been in the life style a long time, and our encounters are few and are far between. This is by choice. We aren’t looking to jump from person to person (couple to couple). We prefer to find someone who we have chemistry with and be able to have a “stable” FWB relationship. We are Disease, Drug and Drama Free. We prefer to use condoms. We are very much into discretion. I still consider us "New" to all of this as well since we've not participated actively in the life style. My husband is 44, 6'0",, brown hair blue eyes and about 220lbs. As for me, I'm 35, 5'9", have dark hair (used to be jet black, but thanks to the California sun its faded). I'm a big girl though, plus size. This seems to drive people in the other direction. I'm used to it, just please don't be a jerk about it.

My Ideal Person We are Disease, Drug and Drama Free and we are very much into discretion.

We are not a pushy couple and are not looking for pushy people. Its not all about sex for us. So if we meet for drinks and have a good time without it going beyond that…then perfect! If it goes beyond that…then perfect. I feel that getting to know each other is part of the exploration and seduction.